Inspiration for Teachers to Love Those You Serve

Hopefully as each of us is called to teach in the Primary, we all make a commitment similar to that of Nephi when he said "I will go and do the things which the Lord hath commanded, for I know that the Lord giveth no commandments unto the children of men, save He shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the things which He commandeth them." (1 Nephi 3:7)

Jesus knew the art of effective teaching. He spoke of things people could touch and see. He created proverbs and parables that arrested attention, and he taught fundamental principles with lasting appeal. He made us think and encouraged us to act. He spoke with authority and with the assurance that he spoke for his Father.

He was also a great teacher through the power and radiance of his own personality. The person equation in teaching is powerful beyond definition or description. Jesus attracted friend and foe with his magnetism. That part of his greatness as a teacher we shall never know until we sit at his feet.

Each teacher has a unique personality, one that can be interesting and appealing to others. None of us will be attractive to everyone, but we can be attractive to someone if we are sincere and enthusiastic in our love for the gospel, for our students, and for life.

- From Lowell L. Bennion, "Jesus the Master Teacher"

There is something about physical contact that is wonderful. It lifts, it reassures. It says "I care" in a hundred different ways. "He touched with his hand the disciples whom he had chosen" (3 Nephi 18:36)

"And he touched her hand, and the fever left her" (Matthew 8:15)

"And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them" (Mark 10:13)

"It was nearing Thanksgiving and the teacher had just given the children instructions to draw something for which they were very thankful. As she looked at the children she thought in her heart, These poor little children have so very little to be thankful for--half fed, half clothed--what would they draw that they were especially thankful for? Take David for instance. He was so thin and uncared for, and so very shy. He didn't enter into the games with other boys for he wasn't able to hold his own with them. Always when she was on duty on the playground, David would follow her about like a shadow and press very close to her and though for protection. What could he draw for which he was especially thankful?

"The drawings were completed and she held them up for the class to see. There were the usual turkeys, tables laden with good foods, etc., about which these poor children could only know from pictures. David had drawn a hand, and when she held it up, she got many responses from the children. One child said, 'That is the hand of God, for he gives us everything.' Another said, 'That represents all of the hands that help us.' But David had drawn only one. This drawing caused more comment than any of the others, but David offered no explanation. 

"The teacher was curious, so when the others were busy working on their next assignment she leaned close to David and said, 'Whose hand are you especially grateful for, David?'

"Looking up into her face he simply stated, 'Yours.'

"Then she remembered the numerous occasions when he had pressed closely to her and she had reached down and taken his hand in hers and pressed it warmly. She had given something of herself to this little boy that was most priceless to him and for which he was exceedingly grateful." (Author Unknown)

There are any number of things a hand can do: hold other hands, pat a back, give a gentle caress, rest on a shoulder, tousle hair, pray. May I bear witness that hands were given to us to use; to help and lift. I know the Savior did so for us. I also know we can find real happiness by doing the same for others. I pray that we may be truly grateful for those hands around us who help. May we show our gratitude by doing the same.

- From Paul H. Dunn, "The Human Touch"

A man once asked a number of people of different ages who they considered to be their best friend, and why. The answers went something like this: "My mommy, because she is nice to me. My bishop, because he listens to us guys. My teacher, because she is always available to me even after class. The chaplain, because he believes in me. He even believed in me sometimes when he shouldn't have."

- From Marvin J. Ashton, "What Is a Friend?"

May the children we teach each week know that we are truly their friend. We are nice, willing to listen, available, and accepting. Then we can really be teachers. 

May we truly lose ourselves in service to those we have been called to teach. An unknown author put his priorities in order this way:

I had walked life's way with an easy tread,

Had followed where comfort and pleasure led.

Until one day in a quiet place,

I met the master face to face.

With station and rank and wealth for my goal,

Much thought for my body, but none for my soul.

I had entered to win in life's mad race,

When I met the master face to face.

I met him and knew him and blushed to see

That his eyes full of sorrow were fixed on me;

And I faltered and fell at his feet that day,

While my castles melted and vanished away. 

Melted and vanished, and in their place

Naught else did I see but the master's face.

And I cried aloud, "Oh, make me meet

To follow the steps of thy wounded feet."

My thought is now for the souls of men,

I have lost my life to find it again,

E'er since one day in a quiet place

I met the master face to face.

"And when our call is done may we feel those happy words, 'Well done, thou good and faithful servant. . . .enter thou into the joy of the Lord.'" (Matthew 25:21)

"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old he will not depart from it." (Proverbs 22:6)

". . . .except ye be converted and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the Kingdom of Heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven. And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me." (Matthew 18:3-5)

"And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing." (1 Corinthians 13:2)

Even though there are millions and millions of people in the world, He cares about each one of us. I want to know my Heavenly Father better. Teach me in my way about His gospel and the things He has asked me to do.

Remember the One

". . . go after that which is lost." -Luke 15:4

Account for each child is not attending:

1. Know Who
Know the child who is not attending. Keep accurate, up-to-date records about each child. Include interests, friends, and achievements of the child. Keep a record of your activation efforts. Update your activation record monthly.

2. Know Why
Discover why the child is not attending; determine the specific reasons why. What does the child or parent say when contacted?

3. Know How
Know how to activate the child. Design a plan to activate each non-attending child. Make the plan special for each child, designed to meet the specific need of the child. Make a short-term goal. Include: Who can help? What can be done?

Contact each child who is not attending:

1. Primary
Help teachers feel personal responsibility for each child. Discuss when orienting new teachers and when counseling teachers. Involve the secretary in record keeping and contacting. Discuss in ward council meeting. Have teachers share successes. Keep a positive focus as teachers and leaders brainstorm ways to activate the children in your area.

2. Home and Visiting Teachers
Discuss in each ward council meeting. Work, with priesthood direction, to involve home and visiting teachers. Provide them with enough information about the child (on paper if possible) to make a meaningful visit to the family. Acquaint uninformed parents with the blessing of Primary.

3. Friends
Primary classmates are important activation helpers. Share the message that Primary is fun by encouraging other ward members to befriend children, provide rides, and sit with them in sacrament meeting. Ward members could be a substitute grandmother/grandfather, big sister/brother, or aunt/uncle.

Love each child:

1. Focus on the child
Love each child as he is and where he is. Find ways to let him know you care (a call or note, a visit, recognizing special days and achievements).

2. Make Primary special
When the non-attending child comes to Primary, make him feel welcome and involve him. Take part of Primary to the child with handouts, special invitations, and a message from the lesson.

3. Make Activity Days missionary days
Plan Activity Days to include the non-attending child. Plan Activity Days to include the non-member child.

Activation through love:

The light of the gospel is a sharing process. Primary teachers, children and presidencies all work together with prayer, faith, and action to fill those empty chairs at Primary.

Teachers: Home Visits, Transportation, Invitations, Calls and Visits, Special Time Together, and "Missed You" Cards
The teacher, Sister Reese, at each year's beginning, prayerfully visits the home of each child assigned to her class. The quote from Elder Neal A. Maxwell gives guidance: "Organized love is better than generalized concern." Meeting with both parent and child, she describes the course of study, offers assistance by arranging transportation, and issues a special invitation to class. She helps each child feel secure and excited about the new change that will be taking place.

Invitations are adapted to remind a child of quarterly activities. Follow through is important to Sister Reese. During the year, she calls or visits the child and parents to inform them of special activities, class presentations, or the child's progress in class.

Sister Reese prepares especially for each child by learning as much about them as possible, preparing her lessons with each child in mind, and by taking advantage of preparation meeting. She loves the one-on-one fellowship with a friendly "hello" outside of class and by having "special time" with each child. She may invite the child to her home to bake cookies or go bike riding. Birthdays are remembered with a note or a telephone call. A teacher trying to activate a child could attend the child's concert, ball game, or other activity.

"Missed You" ideas help Sister Reese maintain that one-on-one closeness she is developing. She sends a card or note, calls, or takes the classroom materials to each missing child. To help her remember to mail a note, she puts a stack of stamped "Missed You" notes with her Primary materials at the beginning of each month. Then on the way home from church, it is easy to mail the card to the missing child.

Class Members: Lessons, Friendshipping, Fellowshipping, and Invitations to Quarterly Activities
Class members can have a significant influence on the lives of other class members. Victor L. Brown said, "Sometimes these young people have a special touch, which only peers seem to have."

David was having problems and rarely came to Primary. He felt alienated and would start fights with the other children. When David did come to Primary, the other boys made him sit next to the girls and giggled and teased him. In a meeting, his teacher and the Primary President helped plan a course of action. There would be lessons on friendship and love. The class would offer special personal and class prayers on David's behalf; children would be encouraged to specify what they would do to befriend David. Classmates agreed to be friendly at school, help him attend special activities, talk nicely to him at Church, or invite him to their home. When David attended Church, the children were excited to see him.

David pestered a small boy on his way to his class row. Bob, one child who had been particularly unfriendly to David, stood up and said, "Come on, Dave, sit by me." A smile spread over David's face. He beamed excitedly and sat quietly and reverently throughout the entire Primary meeting, including class time. His teacher couldn't believe the instant transition--all because one boy asked David to sit by him.

Presidencies: Incentives, Transportation, 100% Day, and the Little Lamb Report
Presidencies will receive inspiration as they strive to reach the heart of each child in need. One president, Sister Evans, uses attendance incentives to excited children to come to Primary, not by competition between children or classes, but through increasing their self-esteem and sense of belonging. She uses bright stickers, stars, wooly lambs, etc., appropriate for children of various ages. However, the best and most important attendance incentive is an increased show of love and attention toward a non-attending child.

Through the ward council meeting, Sister Albert enlists the assistance of priesthood leaders, home teachers, and visiting teachers in a coordinated effort to reach the child. The ward council discusses possible solutions to attendance problems. Sister Albert's ward organized a transportation committee to meet the attendance needs of the children.

A 100% Day can add excitement as well as spirituality into Primary. The president enlists the efforts of every teacher to have each child attend on this special day.

Another presidency realizes the importance of knowing something about the factors in Primary or a child's personal life which might influence his attendance at Primary. Some of these are: class relationships, relationship with his family or whoever has prime care for him, personality and self-image, and the support he receives to attend Primary. The president assigns her secretary to create a "Little Lamb" reports for each executive meeting designating any child who had missed two Primaries in a row. With this report, the presidency contacted the teacher to inquire after the child's welfare or makes some visits themselves.

When Primary teachers, children, and presidencies work hand in hand, many empty chairs can be filled with children. They can't be taught if they aren't there. Then clearly the Lord's admonition is fulfilled: "And all thy children shall be taught of the Lord; and great shall be the peace of thy children." (Isaiah 54:13)

Reaching the One Object Lesson Ideas:

Display a bouquet of pansies and discuss with teachers how each child in their class is unique, just as each pansy is different. We have to get to know each child and their interests to appreciate that uniqueness.

Display a poster of a large magnet overlaying a heart. A magnet has a positive and negative end. We should always stress the positive and magnetize those whom we serve with our love for them.

A Teacher's Testimony:
Shortly after my arrival in Utah, four year ago, I was called to teach a Primary class. Two years later, we moved to a different ward and I was again called to the same position. I thought I needed a change and was somewhat upset with the call. After prayerful consideration, I accepted the calling.

When the class roll was given to me, I discovered I had ten children assigned to me. Three were regular attenders, four attended occasionally, and three did not attend. I decided to accept the challenge to find the one missing lamb of the flock, or in my case, to find all seven.

After reviewing proper teaching methods, I realized that I had to become a true friend to each child, develop a trusting relationship and join these together with a bond of love. I set these goals for myself.

To develop a close relationship with anyone you must meet personally on a "one to one" basis with them. Since the majority of my students didn't come to Primary regularly, I decided to take a portion of the Primary to them at home for each lesson they missed. I called the handouts and other related lesson materials I gave each child the "Goodie Sack." This was effective in activating all the children except two. Bobbie was one of the two.

For five months, weekly, Bobbie reacted to my presence with mad stares and complete silence. I grew to love the little boy and the spirit of "finding the lost one" grew stronger within me. One day, something very discouraging happened. Bobbie missed class, as usual, so I took his "Goodie Sack" to him at home. I handed it to him and I got my first verbal response from him which was, "Get out of my house, I hate you Kelly Bradley!" His mother was totally frustrated and sent him down the hall to his room. At the end of the hall, I could see him punching the air like he was trying to hit me.

When I left his home, I broke into tears. After five months of rejection this seemed unbearable. Maybe it was time to give up. I went home and poured my soul to my husband. We prayed about it, and the spirit told me not to give up.

Luckily, Bobbie's birthday was in three days. I made him a cake, took it over to him, and sang "Happy Birthday." Once again I received the same reception from him. I thought that no one deserved this kind of treatment. Since I had been successful with the rest of my class, why did I keep inflicting punishment upon myself?

I went home and told the experience to my husband. Once again, he gave me his usual pep talk on "reaching the one," but this time I told him if he was so "gung ho" about going back there, he could go!

The next Sunday, Bobbie missed class again, so my husband took the Goodie Sack to his home. Being the brave person that I am, I stood across the street and gave him moral support. I still loved Bobbie, but I wasn't sure how to proceed. As I look back, I realize the Lord knew how to proceed. That very next Sunday, I walked into Primary opening exercises and there sat Bobbie and his mother. Five months of effort had paid off in double dividend. The young boy and his mother were in church.

Both of them came every week from then on, gradually learning and partaking of the Spirit of the Lord. Bobbie's mother had recently been called to teach in the Primary. She has accepted the call and has opened the door for other inactive children to come to Primary with her.

I thank the Lord for this experience I have shared with Bobbie and his mother. Now I know this call came from the Lord. I know that through prayer, faith, and being diligent in whatever calling we hold, our Heavenly Father will assist us in carrying out our righteous endeavors.

-Kelly Bradley

Teaching Tips and Discipline Ideas

1. Never take roll in opening exercises. Leave it in your classroom. The children will understand that you are not paying attention. Do not allow the children to take roll, either. It detracts from the lesson prepared by the Presidency.

2. Keep seats separated if possible. This makes it harder to touch other children. Minimize distractions by facing children away from windows.

3. Let your Primary Presidency help you solve discipline problems. Many children have deep-rooted problems that have taken years to develop. It will take time, patience, wisdom, and understanding to solve them. In the meantime, the child may not respond to ordinary methods of discipline. He may be a constant cause of disturbance in class, but you should never feel that you must cope with such a situation alone. The Primary Presidency can give you help that will shorten the time to solve discipline problems. They may also have information about the child that you do not.

4. Remember, many children have never had to be a part of a group, and as such, do not know how to respect the standards of a group.

5. Never shout or out-talk children. Use your voice calmly. Never lose your temper. You can't teach children self-control if we have none ourselves.

6. Never call upon a child whose hand is not raised. If a child calls out an answer without raising his hand, ignore it. Ask the question of someone who has raised their hand instead.

7. Accept all answers children give to a question. Comment positively on each answer a child gives when you ask him a question. Even if it is not the answer you wanted, it will encourage them to keeping trying and keep answering questions.

8. When doing a question-and-answer activity, try passing a ball around to keep attention on the discussion. You could also try a picture or cutout of an apple tree or a fishing game. Each apple or fish has a question on it. You could also try seasonally appropriate visual aids, such as snowmen and Valentines. Put questions under chairs before class and have children answer the questions they find.

9. Get children's attention at the beginning of class using an Attention Getter. As soon as attention wanders, use another. Use an attention getter before the class becomes chaotic. This is much easier than trying to restore order.

10. When a child's attention wanders: place your hand on their shoulder without comment as you continue with the lesson, insert their name into the lesson or story, move them to another chair, or use class signals (established previously) for certain behaviors.

11. Make it clear that you accept and love each child. It is his behavior you don't love or accept.

12. Use individual praise when a child does something well (sits quietly, folds arms, answers questions well). Even if a child is only good for a few minutes, compliment her. Try to compliment every child every lesson. Reward positive behavior immediately.

13. Standing behind or next to a table while teaching makes you seem like an authoritarian figure. Sit on their same level. If you have the children seating in a semi-circle, be a part of the semi-circle as well.

14. Let the children help you with the lesson, or with cleaning up afterwards.

15. If you have more than one discipline problem in a class, work on one before addressing another. One thing at a time.

16. Use construction paper to create ears, mouths, hands, etc. If a child is a good listener, they are given an ear. If they stay a good listener throughout class, they get to take it home. Don't do this two weeks in a row. Don't overuse any good idea.

17. Don't make idle threats. If you threaten, it should be something on which you can follow through. Avoid threats because it takes the discipline out of the children's hands.

18. Be honest enough with the children to reprove them sharply when necessary. When a child endangers himself or a class member or disrespects something sacred, they need to be reproved sharply. You can try something like, "What you have done is very wrong. I like you too much to let you act like that." A reprimand should always be followed by an increase in love.

19. Unite in love and prayer to help your children. Love is the greatest power in the world; it cannot fail. If you love every child in your class, you will be able to meet his needs and teach him the gospel.

20. Interest is the key. The interested student, the one who is actively involved in the subject, is rarely a problem.

21. You are an adult; don't try to be "one of the kids."

22. Be enthusiastic about the subject.

23. Don't confuse punishment with discipline.

24. Good discipline is long range and depends on the harmonious relationship of the entire group.

25. Don't speak too quickly, talk down to the children, speak monotonously. Your voice is a teaching aid; use it!

26. Don't ridicule, use sarcasm, or name call. You may temporarily gain a child's attention, but it can lead to much worse behavior. Even the child who is severely misbehaving cares how others feel about them. Children do not respect a teacher who name calls. Do not be rude or cruel.

27. A child's attention is short; therefore, use transition periods. Transition between stories, games, activities, songs, etc. which break your lesson up into segments. Don't take too long between transitions, or you may lose their attention. Announce transitions in fun, enthusiastic ways, such a visual prompts they understand to mean certain activities, or tape the name of an activity under a chair.

28. When you begin a new calling or start a new year with a new class, set up class rules/expectations with the children. This reduces the chances of misbehavior because you have set forth the expectations before any have had the chance to occur.

29. If a discipline issue arises, you could try having the children problem solve. Try saying, "This is our problem. (State the problem.) What are we going to do about it?" Encourage the children to use their best thinking to come up with some workable solutions. You could also have them role play.

30. Be fair. Children are quick to sense favoritism.

31. Sometimes it can be appropriate to hear a child out. Their frustration at something else can be related to misbehavior, and sometimes problems can be solved.

32. Redirection can work well for misbehavior, especially in younger children.

33. Use positive sentiments (sit quietly) rather than negative ones (stop fidgeting).

34. Sometimes ignoring unwanted behavior can be the best approach.

Handout Ideas for Absent Children

Primary "Sparkles" When You Are There! (Affix something glittery)

By "Gum" We Sure Missed You at Primary! (Attach a stick of gum)

Come GROW with us at Primary! (Attach a packet of seeds)

You light up our lives when you come to Primary! (or) We missed your twinkling light at Primary. (Something that lights up)

We're looking for you at Primary! (Googley eyes)

Hi ____________. My name is Timothy, and I am here to tell you about Primary, but I need your help. Color me and put me together with the help of your parents. You will need crayons, scissors, and something to attach my hands, like a brad. I am here to remind you of Primary. Cut out my arms and fasten them in place. Point my long hand to the 12 and my short hand to the _____. Now whenever you look at me, you can remember what time Primary starts! Your teacher is ____________, your class is ________________, and you meet in room number ________. I'll be watching for you! (With cut out clock with arms and a child to point.)

Positive Motivators for Children

Grab Bag:
This is an excellent positive motivator for one child or for the entire class. The students can earn tickets to the Grab Bag by their positive behavior. Each "grabber" may take one card out of the Grab Bag. On the card is written the reward the student has earned. Here are some examples of rewards teachers have used with their class:
*Right to be monitor
*Right to be team captain
*Right to be first in line
*Right to be teacher's aide
*Positive notes to parents
*Extra free time
*Special free time activity
*Choose next class story/subject
*Choose game
*Candy
*Arts and crafts supply

Winning Words:

Choose a positive word for the day that is not commonly used in your students' vocabulary. Have your students use this word as often as they can during the day to positively reinforce their peers' behavior. Words such as marvelous, phenomenal, and fantastic are good for elementary-aged students. For older students, use words like resplendent, sublime, exemplary. Challenge the students to find new positive words to use during the year. Make it a contest. See who can use the word appropriately the most often during the class.

Stick 'Em:

Don't forget, students love stickers and awarding them is a great positive reinforcement. During the day, reward students for good behavior by giving them a sticker. For an extra treat, allow all the students who have earned stickers to have a special time for trading with each other occasionally.

Positive Letters: 

Send special positive letters or notes addressed directly to the students at home. Everyone loves to receive mail and since most children do not receive personal letters, it can be a very special event. Make your own "positive" notepaper for this purpose. Duplicate enough sheets so that you can send one to each student in the class.

Students of the Day:

Each day, recognize at least two students either for work well done or for outstanding behavior. Bring a reward to hand out to your two winners.

Probing for Positives:

If you are having trouble determining positive consequences for your students, take a survey asking your students the following questions:

*What is your favorite activity in this class?

*What privilege would you like to earn?

*What's the best reward you can earn?

The answers to these questions should give you some good ideas for positive consequences that would work with your students.

Fitting Together

Each student in the class has something unique and special to contribute to the group. Show how each member of the class fits together by following the directions for making a class puzzle.

Materials needed:

poster board (36" square)
scissors
magic markers
white glue
cardboard (36" square)

Procedure:

1. Cut a large piece of poster board into enough pieces for each class member to have one piece.

2. On the puzzle pieces, have each person write the one special gift he/she brings to the class. Have each person sign his/her puzzle piece.

3. Have each person tell about his/her special talent.

4. Arrange the pieces of the puzzle until each fits together to make a total picture.

5. Glue the completed puzzle to a piece of cardboard.

6. Hang the puzzle in a special place of honor within the classroom or school.

Handout:

Write about your special quality that you bring to the class in the space below. Add your name to your unique gift:

How to Love Teaching Primary

1. Learn that you are in the right place. Your call came from the Lord; you have been given the responsibility for your own growth and that of those you serve. Go to work and you will learn to love your calling. Pray for the spirit of your calling and a quiet peace and joy for the work will fill your soul.

2. Prepare. Survey your assignment--the lesson you are to give, the activities to plan for, the leadership meetings to attend. Mark your calendar in advance and plan your Primary assignments. Make scripture study a regular part of your preparation. Prepare so well that you can give your lessons without always looking at the lesson manual. This enables you to personalize the lessons and to be more easily led by the Spirit. Stretch yourself into preparing to teach with variety.

3. Get to know the children. Speak and write their names as often as possible. Encourage each child to express himself and participate in the class discussions. Your love for Primary will grow as you learn to love the children you teach. Enjoy the children. Laugh with them, appreciate the qualities of childhood, and learn from them.

4. Be happy in your service. Blessings will come to you and the children as you engage in the work of the Lord. you will experience joy as you see the children you teach grow and mature and as their testimonies and your own increase.

Parents and Primary: Partners is Teaching Children the Gospel

Parents have the major responsibility for teaching the gospel of Jesus Christ to their children. (See D&C 68:25–28.) The Primary is a great resource to parents in this responsibility.

How can the Primary help? First, it offers children a systematic study of gospel principles. Second, it gives children the opportunity to develop wholesome friendships in a gospel context.

For Primary to be most helpful, however, parents must be aware of what their children are learning in Primary and help the Primary leaders understand what their children need. As parents and Primary leaders talk together and learn to understand the needs of each child, Primary will become more effective in reinforcing the gospel teachings the children receive at home.

Here are some things the Primary can do:

1. Near the beginning of each year, the Primary can conduct a parent orientation to the year’s program. This orientation may include the class purpose and outline of lessons to be taught; songs that will be taught in Primary during the year; activities and programs planned; and the scriptures to be emphasized and the Articles of Faith to be learned. Primary teachers can also discuss lesson outlines for the year one-on-one with the parents and suggest ways parents might help the child live the principles that will be taught.

2. Early in the year, Primary teachers can visit the home of each child to discover the interests and abilities of each class member and to discuss ways to support parents in teaching the gospel to their child.

3. The Primary can invite parents to attend Primary on a rotation basis with their children at least once during the year. Parents can also be invited to participate in the presentation of the lesson, in sharing experiences, or in giving their testimony.

4. Primary teachers can give children opportunities in Primary to share special home experiences, such as the birth of a new baby or the call of a new missionary.

5. Before teaching a particular gospel principle, the teacher could sometimes ask the parents about how well their children are living the principle. This information can help the teacher structure the lessons to meet the needs of the children.

6. Having obtained the information from parents in advance, the teacher can share examples of children in the class living a gospel principle being taught in the lesson.

7. Primary leaders can include parents in incentive programs (Gospel in Action) and in helping the children learn the Articles of Faith, memorize scriptures, and keep a journal.

8. Children or teachers could send occasional reports home on things the child has learned and done in Primary.

9. Teachers can alert parents of assignments for prayers, talks, scripture recitations, or parts on programs two weeks in advance. Clearly written expectations will help parents prepare the child to fulfill the assignment.

10. Primary leaders can talk to parents of children who don’t attend regularly and help them recognize what Primary has to offer their family.

Here are some suggestions for parents:

1. Parents can spend a few minutes each Sunday discussing with the child what he has experienced in Primary.

2. Parents can help the child practice living a gospel principle taught in Primary that week.

3. Parents can tell the teacher about special events in the child’s life that could be shared in Primary.

4. Parents can visit the class from time to time (informing the teacher of their coming, of course) and offer to help.

5. Parents can help the child write a letter of appreciation to the teacher for a special lesson or activity he enjoyed.

6. The family can sing songs in the home that the children learn in Primary.

7. Parents can let the child tell a story or experience from Primary for family home evening.

8. Parents can help the child prepare for assignments in Primary far enough in advance so that he feels secure and ready.

Sammy (age 8): “In class today we learned about being thankful and what fasting is all about. If you have a problem, you can fast and Heavenly Father will help you.”

Megan (age 6) says about her teacher: “She looks like she is a grandma and she is nice. I know she likes me because she tells me.”

How to Show Love to a Primary Child

How to Show Love to a Primary Child

1. Get to know each child in your class. Ask about his family members and situation, his special interests or fears. Listen to each child. Look him in the eyes and pay attention to what he is saying. Notes on a file card will help remind you what you have learned about him.

2. Share yourself. Tell the children of your desire to do as the Lord has asked. Tell them you love the Lord and appreciate your call to teach them.

3. Take every opportunity to show your love. Tell them you love them. Pat their shoulders; shake their hands; smile and nod to acknowledge them. Watch for them outside of class and always greet them or acknowledge their presence in some way.

4. Watch the reactions of the children. Their emotions, their comments and behaviors, all provide clues that can help you enrich your lessons and touch their hearts.

5. Shower the children with deserved compliments. Make mental notes of expressions of kindnesses, participation in singing, reverence in prayer, or pleasant countenances. Mention these things as you welcome children to Primary or present the lesson. And be generous with your compliments about the child to her parents and family, especially when the child is present!

6. Strive to be fair and sincere--both in and out of the classroom. Children are very aware of inequality and insincerity.

7. Foster loyalty among class members. Help each be concerned about the others by demonstrating your loyalty to the children and to your Primary leaders and fellow teachers. Speak highly of those with whom you serve and of those you serve.

8. Be a living example of what you teach. The children in your class will be watching and learning from you.

9. Pray for understanding. Pray for inspiration. Pray for patience, and pray for a genuine love for each child.

The Primary Role: Aiding Parents by Teaching the Gospel to Their Children

The Primary Role: Aiding Parents by Teaching the Gospel to Their Children

By Dwan J. Young, Primary General President

The Savior always had time for children. He healed them, counseled with them, and taught them. In 3 Nephi 26:14 [3 Ne. 26:14], we read that he loosed their tongues so that they could speak of marvelous things to their parents. Jesus saw the children as the hope of the world. I see them that way, too. And it is that vision that motivates all of us, whether we are parents, leaders, or teachers, to teach children the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Our assignment as a church-wide Primary organization to assist parents throughout the world to teach the gospel to their children is an overwhelming one—but it is the Lord’s plan in the Church today. Our Heavenly Father expects that children be successfully taught. In Primary he expects that they find loving, faithful teachers who understand how significant their Primary experience can be for children. And it is happening! Tens of thousands of children meet with dedicated teachers and leaders from Brisbane to Boston to Berlin.

The purpose of Primary is to teach children the gospel of Jesus Christ and to help them to live it. One of the most important assignments in the Church is to touch the lives of children with the gospel.

To accomplish this purpose, Primary teachers and leaders should set these goals:

1. Teach children that they are children of God and that Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ love them. One of the greatest needs a child has is for adequate self-esteem. It must be nurtured through their entire growing years. A young child’s self-esteem is based largely on how he thinks others perceive him. He needs to know he will always be loved, will always have a friend. What better way, then, to provide self-esteem than to help a child understand he is a child of God—that Heavenly Father and Jesus love him no matter what, no matter where he goes. And if a child’s Primary teacher treats him with the dignity and respect due a child of God, he will come to view himself as a worthwhile person.

2. Help children learn to love Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. In Primary, children have many opportunities to investigate and feel the spirit of the scriptures. As they grow in their understanding of the scriptures, they learn to love the Father and the Son and develop the desire to obey their commandments. They begin to see that their experience and choices are significant to their future.

3. Help children prepare to be baptized, to receive the Holy Ghost, and to keep their baptismal covenants. Primary teachers help children understand why they need to be baptized. Children are taught the responsibility they have to be valiant in keeping the covenant they made at baptism and how this will help them withstand temptation.

4. Help children grow in their understanding of the gospel plan and provide opportunities for them to practice living gospel principles. In Primary, children study the Articles of Faith to enhance their understanding of the gospel. They begin at an early age to study a line at a time. Primary also plans activities where they can practice the principles they have learned, socialize with other Latter-day Saint children, and be with teachers who stand for virtue, honesty, and faithfulness.

5. Help boys prepare to receive the priesthood and be worthy to use this power to bless the lives of others. Specific lessons help boys understand the priesthood they will bear. They learn what they can do to be worthy of holding the priesthood. Appropriate activities help them develop personal qualities that can help them become righteous and responsible young men.

6. Help girls prepare to be righteous women and to live lives of service. Primary lessons and activities help girls develop their spirituality, their talents, their intellects, and their capacity for service. They come to understand and appreciate the vital role, the opportunities, and the responsibilities of women in the Church today.

Children need Primary. They need the enrichment, variety, and gospel learning that can take place there. Parents are charged with teaching their children correct gospel principles, and Primary teachers can help parents reinforce and clarify gospel principles.

A father tells of a time when his family was learning in family home evening about resurrection. His seven-year-old daughter was puzzled about death and resurrection, even though the family had discussed it at length. After the lesson, the father asked, “Honey, do you understand this?” She replied, “I guess so,” and nodded with a puzzled frown.

She continued to be troubled. One day her mother found her with tears streaming down her face studying a picture of the Savior in the family home evening manual. Again, she explained the concepts to her daughter and asked her if she understood. “I guess so,” was again the reply.

The next week, her Primary teacher taught a lesson about the resurrection. She came running to tell her mother, “Oh, Mother! Now I understand! And it’s even better than you said. Not only do we live again, but our spirits never die. They live forever and ever!”

Primary teachers and leaders, I am grateful for you. You can make a significant difference in the lives of children as you help parents teach them the gospel. If you will love the children, you will make a difference. Remember how much the children depend on you to give them worthwhile and inspiring experiences. One of the greatest legacies we can give the world is a generation of children who know that they are literally children of God and who love Him and have covenanted with Him to keep His commandments!

To the Children of the Church (Conference Address)

Given by President Ezra Taft Benson in General Conference on April 2, 1989

My dear brethren and sisters, how I have rejoiced in the messages I have heard delivered from this pulpit at this great general conference of the Church.

The messages are true. They are important. They are vital to our personal salvation, and with all my heart I commend them to you.

In previous general meetings of the Church, I have spoken specifically to the mothers and to the fathers, to the young men and to the young women, to the single adult sisters and to the single adult brethren.

For my closing message at this conference, I would now like to speak to the children of the Church—yes, to you, our precious children. And as you listen, I pray that you will know that this is a personal message just for you.

How I love you! How our Heavenly Father loves you!

Just like the beautiful Primary song you sing, each of you truly is a child of God. For you, rich blessings are in store, and if you learn to do His will, you will live with Him once more. I know this to be true. (See “I Am a Child of God,” Hymns, 1985, no. 301.)

Today I desire to teach you what our Heavenly Father wants you to know so that you can learn to do His will and enjoy true happiness. It will help you now and throughout your life.

First, may I say how thrilled I am to know how you children are learning about the Book of Mormon. This is one of the very important things Heavenly Father wants you to do.

I know you are reading the Book of Mormon, for I have received hundreds of personal letters from you telling me that you are reading this sacred book. It makes me weep for joy when I hear this.

Many of you have read the Book of Mormon all the way through. In family home evening and in Primary you have dramatized Book of Mormon stories, you have sung songs about the Book of Mormon, you have learned the names of the books in the Book of Mormon, you have played Book of Mormon games, you have learned about wonderful Book of Mormon prophets. Some of you have even earned money to send copies of the Book of Mormon around the world.

How pleased I am to hear of your love for the Book of Mormon. I love it too, and Heavenly Father wants you to continue to learn from the Book of Mormon every day. It’s Heavenly Father’s special gift to you. By following its teachings, you will learn to do the will of our Father in Heaven.

I also hope your parents and leaders will give you opportunities to learn from the Doctrine and Covenants, the Pearl of Great Price, and the Bible as well.

Now, there are other important things Heavenly Father wants you to do.

He wants you to pray to Him every day. He wants to help you because He loves you, and He will help you if you pray to Him and ask Him for His help. In your prayers, also thank Him for your blessings. Thank Him for sending our oldest brother, Jesus Christ, into the world. He made it possible for us to return to our heavenly home. Thank Him for your family. Thank Him for the Church. Thank Him for this beautiful world you live in. Ask Him to protect you. In your prayers, ask Him to help you know what to do in your life. When you make mistakes, your Heavenly Father still loves you. So pray to Him, and He will help you try again to do right.

Pray to Heavenly Father to bless you with His Spirit at all times. We often call the Spirit the Holy Ghost. The Holy Ghost is also a gift from Heavenly Father. The Holy Ghost helps you to choose the right. The Holy Ghost will protect you from evil. He whispers to you in a still, small voice to do right. When you do good, you feel good, and that is the Holy Ghost speaking to you. The Holy Ghost is a wonderful companion. He is always there to help you.

My dear boys and girls, honor your fathers and mothers. They will help you make good decisions. Enjoy and respect your grandparents. Be a real friend to your brothers and sisters. Choose friends who have high ideals. Choose friends who will help you to be good.

Attend sacrament meeting. Listen carefully to what your bishop says. He is an important spiritual leader who has a special calling from Heavenly Father to help you.

Enjoy Primary, and attend every week. Bring your member and nonmember friends to Primary. Learn the Primary songs well. They are wonderful. Memorize the Articles of Faith and earn the Gospel in Action Award.

Be honest. Do not lie nor steal. Do not cheat. Do not use profanity, but be clean in your thoughts and speech.

Be a true Latter-day Saint. Stand up for your beliefs. One of my favorite Primary songs is “Dare to Do Right.” Some of the words are:

Dare to do right! dare to be true!
You have a work that no other can do;
Do it so bravely, so kindly, so well,
Angels will hasten the story to tell.

Remember, Satan does not want you to be happy. He does not want you to dare to do right. He wants you to be miserable, as he is. He has captured the hearts of wicked men and women who would have you participate in bad things such as pornography, drugs, profanity, and immorality. Stay away from these evils. Avoid books, magazines, videos, movies, and television shows that are not good. As the scriptures tell us, avoid the very appearance of evil. (See 1 Thes. 5:22.)

Dress modestly. Choose clothing that covers your body properly. Behave in a courteous and polite way. Live the Word of Wisdom. Keep the Sabbath day holy. Listen to good music. Do your best to be good.

Do well in your school work and strive to be a good student.

With help from your parents, begin your own library of favorite tapes, books, and pictures which are available at Church distribution centers. Enjoy reading each month in your home the Friend magazine or the international magazines.

Love the country in which you live. Be a good citizen. Be patriotic. Fly your country’s flag on special holidays. Pray for your country’s leaders.

Primary boys, plan and look forward to serving a full-time mission for the Lord. Young girls, be prepared for missionary service if you are called. But also, young girls, learn from your mothers the important homemaking skills you will use in your own home.

Now I want to say something to you children who do not feel safe and who are frightened or hurt and do not know what to do. Sometimes you may feel all alone. You need to know that even when it seems that no one else cares, your Heavenly Father does. He will always love you. He wants you to be protected and safe. If you are not, please talk to someone who can help you—a parent, a teacher, your bishop, or a friend. They will help you.

I am sure each of you has favorite stories from the scriptures. One of my favorite stories is found in the seventeenth chapter of 3 Nephi in the Book of Mormon. It tells about the visit of Jesus to the people on the American continent after His resurrection. It tells about Jesus healing the sick and teaching the people and praying to Heavenly Father for them.

Now, this is one of my favorite parts of that story:

“And it came to pass that when Jesus had made an end of praying unto the Father, he arose; but so great was the joy of the multitude that they were overcome.

“And it came to pass that Jesus spake unto them, and bade them arise.

“And they arose from the earth, and he said unto them: Blessed are ye because of your faith. And now behold, my joy is full.

“And when he had said these words, he wept, and the multitude bare record of it, and he took their little children, one by one, and blessed them, and prayed unto the Father for them.

“And when he had done this he wept again;

“And he spake unto the multitude, and said unto them: Behold your little ones.

“And as they looked to behold they cast their eyes towards heaven, and they saw the heavens open, and they saw angels descending out of heaven as it were in the midst of fire; and they came down and encircled those little ones about, and they were encircled about with fire; and the angels did minister unto them.” (3 Ne. 17:18–24.)

I promise you, dear children, that angels will minister unto you also. You may not see them, but they will be there to help you, and you will feel of their presence.

Favored little ones were they,
Who towards him Jesus drew!
Who within his arms he took
Just as loving parents do,
Christ the Lord “Our living head.”
This of little children said,
“Such shall of my kingdom be,
Suffer them to come to me.”
Listen to the Savior’s plea,
“Let the children come to me.”

Dear children, our Heavenly Father sent you to earth at this time because you are some of His most valiant children. He knew there would be much wickedness in the world today, and He knew you could be faithful and obedient.

Dear child, you are God’s gift to your parents, and the gift your parents can give God is to bring you back to Him sweet and pure and faithful.

He expects your parents and leaders to teach you, to walk beside you, and to be shining examples to you so that you will know the way you should go. They must spend time with you and love you and pray with you and for you.

Your leaders must call faithful men and women to teach you in Primary. We must provide experiences for you early in your life that will help you know how to live the gospel.

God bless the children of this Church. How I love you! How Heavenly Father loves you! And may we, as your parents, teachers, and leaders, be more childlike—more submissive, more meek, and more humble.

I close my message to you this day with the prayer that we may ever respond to your plea as you so sweetly sing:

Teach me to walk in the light of his love;
Teach me to pray to my Father above;
Teach me to know of the things that are right;
Teach me, teach me to walk in the light.

And then, as your parents, we sing to you:

Come, little child, and together we’ll learn
Of his commandments, that we may return
Home to his presence, to live in his sight—
Always, always to walk in the light.

And together we sing:

Father in Heaven, we thank thee this day
For loving guidance to show us the way.
Grateful, we praise thee with songs of delight!
Gladly, gladly we’ll walk in the light.

For this I fervently pray for the children of the Church, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Easter Egg Book of Mormon Review Game

Easter Egg Game

Instructions:

1. Draw, color, and cut out some paper Easter eggs. (The more eggs, the longer the game.) On the back of each egg, put points (some 5 points, some 10 points, some 15 points, etc.)

2. Cut out the questions into strips and put them in a basket.

3. Divide the children into two groups.

4. Each group will have a different child each time choose a question. You may want to allow teammates to help with the answers. If the child gets the question correct, he gets to choose an egg. (Note: the child cannot see how much the egg is worth until he picks it.) He scores the amount of points on the egg.

5. Keep rotating until all the eggs or questions are gone.

6. The team with the most points wins.

7. This is a good scripture review and really get the children thinking about the scriptures.

Questions:

1. Who was Nephi's father? (Lehi)
2. In Lehi's dream of the tree of life, how did the people find their way to the tree? (They held on to the iron rod.)
3. Lehi was commanded to go to the promised land. How did he and his family get there? (By ship)
4. Where is the promised land? (America)
5. Nephi built s hip with tools. Where did he get the tools? (He made them.)
6. Who was Ammon? (A Nephite missionary to the Lamanites.)
7. Who was Abinadi? (A prophet who tried to teach King Noah.)
8. What is the Liahona? (A gift from God; an instrument or compass given to Lehi)
9. The older Alma had a son who did not obey the commandments until after he had seen a vision. Who was his son? (Alma the younger)
10. Lehi descended from Judah or Joseph (Joseph)
11. Why did Nephi and his brothers return to Jerusalem? (To get the brass plates from Laban)
12. What was Nephi's mother's name? (Sariah)
13. Who fought against the Nephites? (The Lamanites)
14. Why were the Nephites destroyed? (Because they were wicked)
15. Who went with Nephi back to Jerusalem? (Laman, Lemuel, Sam)
16. Who appeared to the Nephites in the land of Bountiful? (Christ)
17. Who was Mormon's son? (Moroni)
18. Who buried the plates and appeared to Joseph Smith? (Moroni)

The Temple (Poem)

By Mary M. Cardon

The temple is the house of the Lord
A place where the faithful wed;
And Saints on earth do temple work
For their kinfolk who are dead.

The baptismal font is a beautiful sigh
Filled with water warm and blue,
It rests on the backs of twelve oxen grand
Made of bronze and a golden hue.

Then after I have been baptized,
I will be privileged to go
Into the waters of that sacred pool
For those souls who lived long ago.

All that is done in the temple
Is done with prayer and love.
It strengthens our family forever,
And pleases our Father above.

Church Words and Phrases Game

From the Friend Magazine, Written by Laura S. Shortridge

Directions: A neutral scorekeeper reads the definitions alternately to two equal teams. If the team receiving the definition gives the correct answer, it receives 2 points; if it does not give the correct answer, the other team may get 1 point for the correct answer before receiving the next definition.

1. I am the most sacred place on earth, and I hope that you come to me when you get married. What I am? Answer: A temple

2. I am the word of God, written by holy men in ancient times as well as in this dispensation. What am I? Answer: The scriptures

3. I am a meeting, usually held on the first Sunday of each month, in which members share their testimonies of the gospel. What am I? Answer: Fast and testimony meeting

4. I am a solemn agreement between you and Heavenly Father. If you keep your end of the agreement, you are guaranteed that Heavenly Father will keep His. What am I? Answer: A covenant

5. I am symbolic of the sacrifice Jesus made for us. When you partake of me on Sunday, you renew the covenants you made when you were baptized. What am I? Answer: The sacrament

6. I am a sacred ordinance that must be performed by a man with the proper authority when you become a member of the Church? What am I? Answer: Baptism

7. I am the power and authority of God. Worthy young men may receive me when they turn twelve years old. What am I? Answer: Aaronic priesthood

8. I am a Church organization that helps teach children the gospel. What am I? Answer: Primary

9. I teach the gospel, especially to nonmembers, and although not every member is one full-time, President David O. McKay said that every members should be one. What am I? Answer: A missionary

10. I was written when Joseph Smith was asked what Church members believed. I have thirteen parts: you should memorize me before you graduate from Primary. What am I? Answer: The Articles of Faith

11. As President of the Church, I speak for God to all the world. What am I? Answer: The Prophet

12. I am a special health code revealed to Joseph Smith. If you follow my advice, you "shall fine wisdom and great treasures of knowledge" (Doctrine & Covenants 89:19). What am I? Answer: The Word of Wisdom

13. I and my two counselors preside over the ward. You come to me for interviews and tithing settlement. What am I? Answer: A bishop

14. I am given to you when you are confirmed a member of the Church. As long as you try your best to choose the right, I will be your constant companion. What am I? Answer: The gift of the Holy Ghost

15. I am one of the twelve special witnesses of Jesus Christ. You can hear me speak at general conferences. What am I? Answer: An Apostle

16. I am the ten percent of your income that you give to a member of the bishopric to help build new meetinghouses and temples and to help run the Church. What am I? Answer: Tithing

17. I am a blessing given you to by a man in your stake who was called just for this purpose. One important thing that I tell you is your lineage in the house of Israel. What am I? Answer: A Patriarchal Blessing

18. I am an inner knowledge that Jesus is the Christ and that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is true. What am I? Answer: A testimony

19. I am a group of members presided over by a bishop and his two counselors. What am I? Answer: A ward

20. I am a group of wards presided over by a president and his two counselors. What am I? Answer: A stake

21. I am the weekly meeting when family members study the gospel, serve, and have fun together. What am I? Answer: Family home evening

22. I am the event that took place when Joseph Smith first prayed in the Sacred Grove. What am I? Answer: The First Version

23. I am the words/thought you use when you talk to Heavenly Father. What am I? Answer: A prayer

Game Ideas for Primary

Who Am I? - This is a good review game for characters or things found in the scriptures. The leader selects a name, such as Noah, Nephi, Moroni, Mary, Paul, etc. and the children have to guess in 20 questions who they have selected. The children should be encouraged not just to guess names but to guess about time periods and locations first.

Scripture Chase - This is a fun way to locate books or specific references from the standard works. It is called a chase because the students race to find the reference. The leader begins by introducing specific references to the children. They may read, discuss, and mark the references for future use. When the leader feels that the children are familiar enough with the references, she may give a quote, key word, problem, or situation as a clue to help them turn to the reference in their own standard works. Indicate which book of the standard works the scripture is in, but be sure not to reveal the actual reference.

Know Your Standard Works - This game would be good to play along with scripture chase. The leader calls out the name of a book from the standard works and the children name the particular works from which it comes. Example: The leader says "Peter," and the answer is the New Testament. This works well with teams.

Message Relay: A good game to introduce a scripture or many scriptures. Divide the group into several groups of equal size. Have a scripture written or typed for each group and divide it into single words. Put the words into a container and give a container to each group. When the leader says to begin, the group tries to assemble the words to form the scripture When the group has its scripture figured out, they deliver it to the leader written out on a piece of paper. The winner is the first group to provide the correct scripture in writing. The groups can be given the same scriptures to unscramble or each group can be given a different one.

Truth or Consequences: This game can be played individually or in teams. A fun way to play might be to team up the girls against the boys. Each person or each team has two cards, one marked true, the other false. Make up some questions that apply to the month's theme or the principle to be taught. One point is awarded for each correct card held up. The child or team gaining the most points wins the game. The "consequences" for a wrong answer (or several wrong answer to make the game move faster--maybe three) would be to have the person choose and lead one verse of a favorite Primary song. If teams were being used, the team would sing the song chosen by one of the members. This game would be a good one to use to combine singing time with sharing time.

Guessing Primary Songs: You could use the teachers with this game and have a fun review with the children. A person (adult or child) claps only the rhythm of a Primary song (be prepared to whisper some help into the children's ears). The other players try to name the song from the rhythm being clapped. Now all sing it together. This would make a good combined singing time and sharing time and a fun way to review.

Pass It On: Seat the children in a circle. Tell or read a scripture story, telling the children beforehand that they will be required to answer questions on the details of the story. Prepare a list of questions before Primary in such a manner that answers to them can be brief and objective. Pass an object (a ball or beanbag) about the room while playing music, and stop it without warning. (If it stops with the same person twice in succession, have the last one who touched it and who has not had a turn answer the question.) The person who is left holding the object chooses a number within the total of the prepared questions, and answers the appropriate question. Play the game until all questions have been answered correctly. Give out a small treat (a small piece of candy) to all who participated.

Animal, Vegetable, and Mineral: This would be a good game to use around holidays as you could pick "things that have to do with that holiday. Pick two children from the Primary and seat them at the front of the room with their backs to the chalkboard. Choose your subject and indicate what category it comes in--(a lion in Daniel's den would be an animal, etc.) Write the subject on the board so the children in the audience can recognize it, then allow the panel (two children) twenty questions in which to identify it. Once they have identified the object, choose two more children to be the panel and pick a new object. Around Christmas, you could use things having to do with the celebration of Christmas or the Savior's birth (hay, angel, gold, stable, swaddling clothes, mule, etc.) The same could be done with Thanksgiving or Easter.

Picture Recognition Contest: Cover the titles and hang around the room pictures depicting scriptural events (or gospel activities such as family prayer, blessing a baby, blessing food, etc.) Give each picture a number. Let the children go around and identify the scene or tell something about the even pictured. (This could be used for both Junior or Senior Primary as the pictures could be very simple for the little ones or more complex for the older children. Either group will have a lot of fun with this one.)

Drawing in the Dark: This game could be played to reinforce the need for Gospel Light, the Holy Ghost, Heavenly Father, or Jesus. Blindfold several children and have them attempt to draw an object. The results will usually be quite distorted. Let them try it again with the blindfold removed. Ccompare this to show what our lives would be like without the light of the Gospel, Holy Ghost, Savior, etc. to help us on our way. Without it (or them) we are in the dark and can easily lose our way and become confused.

Count Your Blessings: The children are seated in a circle. One player starts off with "I am grateful for apples"--or something beginning with the letter "A." The next player is grateful for something beginning with the letter "B" as "I am thankful for my brother." The third child says something beginning with "C" and so on. The game continues around the circle and through the alphabet. If a player fails to think of a word beginning with the proper letter, he drops out of the circle. The winner is the one remaining in the circle longest, or those remaining after time runs out.

Habits: Wrap a string around someone's wrist and have him break it. This is fairly easy (you may want to use thread with children). Then wrap it around again; he can still break it quite easily. Now wrap it around seven or eight times, and you will find that it cannot be broken.

Quick Recall: This game would be good to review scripture characters and see how much the children know about people in the standard works. Seat the children in a circle. Choose someone to be "it." "It" points to someone in the circle and says a name and then counts to ten. The other person must respond with something about the name called. Example: "Abraham" - the person responds with "Married Sarah" or something relating to Abraham. On failure to respond, or respond correctly, the person pointed to must take "it's" place.

Pillowcase Braille: This is a good little game to introduce a new theme. Place an object (something that pertains to the gospel principle you want to teach or the story you want to tell) inside a pillowcase and close the end of the pillowcase with an elastic band. Let the children pass the pillowcase from person to person and feel what the object might be. After everyone has had a turn feeling the case, let them guess what the object is and what gospel principle or scripture story it reminds them of.

Remember: Place a dozen or more objects on a table that have to do with the theme for Primary. For instance, if you are going to talk about the importance of school, you could bring a pencil, notebook, paper, eraser, crayons, etc. Cover the objects with a large towel or sheet. Gather the children around the table. Uncover the objects for one minute and allow everyone to study what they see. Now cover the table again and have the children write down as many of the objects as they can remember. Give a small prize as a pencil to the person getting the most objects. (The more objects on the table, the more fun the game!)

Brainstorming: Divide the children into several groups. Have each group pick a "spokesperson" for their group. Give each group a pencil and a piece of paper. Present an idea for brainstorming. You could give the same idea to each group or different ideas concerning the same theme. Some of the children's idea may be on the "fun" side, and accept those, too. However, you might be surprised at how serious the answers become. Give everyone 7-10 minutes to organize their ideas, and then have the spokesperson reports to the entire group. This could be done on gratitude near Thanksgiving or on serving others in December.

Twelve Days of Christmas Activities

1. Make a list of possible family traditions. Discuss and choose one in family home evening. Examples: caroling, visiting children in the hospital, watching a special program.

2. Send a birthday card to somebody who has a birthday this month. Write a poem or a story about something nice about that person, then illustrate it and put it inside the card.

3. Read Christmas stories to your younger brothers and/or sisters.

4. Think of somebody who might be sad or lonely and spend some time with him/her - play a game or do something else that he/she might like.

5. Find out how Hanukkah is celebrated, and tell about it in family home evening.

6. Babysit for a busy neighbor so that he/she can do some Christmas shopping.

7. Sincerely compliment seven different people for things they do well.

8. Send a Christmas card to your Primary teacher or home teachers. Add a note telling them about something you learned from them.

9. Do something nice for each member of your family without them finding out. Example: make Mom's bed, put a treat in a brother or sister's pocket

10. Plan some special treats for your family members or neighbors.

11. Help your mom by making gingerbread men or some other kind of Christmas cookies and clean up the kitchen when you are finished.

12. Make a special decoration - one that shows love for Jesus - for your Christmas tree.

Simple Felt Nativity Glove Puppets

Mary & Infant Jesus:
Cut body from light blue felt, sash of royal blue felt, hair of brown or black felt, rick-rac headband, swaddling clothes out of white felt, infant's hair of tan felt, mouths of pink, eyes: Mary's blue felt, infant's brown felt

Joseph:
Cut body from gold felt, staff is black pipe cleaner, head cloth is white felt, trim of rick-rac or braid, beard and brows of brown felt, mouth of pink felt

Shepherd:
Cut body from tan felt, staff is black pipe cleaner, beard of black felt, nose of tan felt, mouth of pink felt, trim of colored braid, (other shepherds could be made using basic body pattern of other colors, mix'n'match features)

Wiseman #1:
Cut body of purple felt, face of tan felt, nose of gold felt, beard of brown felt, trim of gold braid with jewels (use old earring or sparkling trim)

Wiseman #2:
Cut body of turquoise felt, headband-lace trim, metallic jewel trims and old earring, beard of brown felt, eyes of turquoise felt, face of gold felt

Wiseman #3:
Cut body of orange felt, face of brown or dark felt, nose and eyes of black felt, beard of black felt, jewels and lace trim

Angel:
Cut body of white felt (wings optional), hair is regular felt, gold braid trim criss-crossing in front, gold trim on head

Sheep:
Cut body of white felt, cut face of white fur, glue black ear-tips behind fur face, paws of white fur with black felt, eyes and nose of black felt, nostrils and tongue of pink felt

The Cactus, the Cross, and Easter

Friend to Friend: The Cactus, the Cross, and Easter

By Jeffrey R. Holland

Probably all of us have experienced when we really needed someone to help us. I remember once as a small boy I surely did. While playing on a mountainside near our home, I fell into the middle of a huge, prickly cactus plant. It really hurt! The prickly spines of the cactus went through my canvas shoes, through my stockings, through my trousers, through my shirt—they went through everything! I felt like a human dart board.

Immediately I let out a cry that was loud enough to shake the mountains. I couldn’t move up, down, in, or out. Every movement I made seemed to send those needles deeper and deeper into my skin. I just stayed there and howled.

I was five years old at the time and my older brother, who immediately rushed to my rescue, was eight. He was overwhelmed at the sight of me and the complexity of my plight. Nevertheless, he began to pull out some of the spines, but they seemed to hurt more coming out than going in and I howled even louder. Furthermore, the pin-sized wounds bled so much when the spines were removed that after a few minutes I looked like an advertisement for Red Cross blood donations.

Finally my brother saw that his feeble plucking was hopeless. There were dozens of spines yet to pull, and I was still screaming as loud as I could. He did the only thing an eight-year-old brother could do. He ran down the mountain, got his small red wagon, and labored painfully to get it up the side of the hill to where I was awaiting death—I thought. With some tugging and hauling and lifting—and plenty of noise from me—he got me out of the cactus and into the wagon. Then in some miraculous way, known only to children and Providence, he brought me down off that steep mountain in his wagon.

The rest of the story is blurred in my memory. As I recall, my mother got me out of my clothes and the rest of the prickly spines out of me. What I do remember clearly and will never forget is the sight of my brother tugging that wagon and determinedly making his way toward me. He was so concerned that he worked wonderfully hard to get to me. If I live to be one hundred, I suppose no memory of my brother will be more vivid than the view I had of him that day. I needed him desperately. And there he was, coming to help!

Easter is always a special time for us (to me it is the very best day of the whole year), and we should all try to remember that we once faced a most difficult problem and needed someone to help us. It was a problem much worse than a lost pet or a broken toy or a fall into a cactus plant. Through a long history of experience, beginning with Adam and Eve and stretching down to our own lives, it was a problem that if unsolved, would have left us in the presence of Satan and his hateful followers. We could then never be united again with our family, with our friends, and with our Heavenly Father who loves us. We would have been in a prison forever.

But Jesus, our elder Brother, did not allow himself to be captured by Satan. He was still safely outside the prison gates. In a way that we may not fully understand, even when we are very old, Jesus set us free. It was as though He had the only key to the prison door and that only He had the strength to swing it open. In doing so, He saved our lives so our families can be kept together and so we can someday return to our heavenly home. But He paid a terrible price to do this for us, a price for which we must give Him honor and reverence by keeping His commandments. He suffered a horrible death on a cross.

In that anguish of physical and spiritual pain Jesus, too, momentarily thought He was all alone and without help, and yet He did not turn away from helping us.

Jesus died for us, and only the mountains that trembled and the sun that darkened seemed to understand the gift that was being given. Then something wonderful happened! One who had died and was buried came to life again in a special way called resurrection.

In the peaceful setting of a spring garden, Jesus arose from His burial tomb to live again with our Heavenly Father. And in some wonderful, miraculous way, He gave us the same power and privilege. I do not know exactly how this will happen, but I know that we have, through Jesus, been given the opportunity to conquer all doubt and despair and death. That is what Easter means to me.

Each year at Eastertime, I would like you to remember how much nicer all the beautiful spring flowers look (and feel) than do those prickly cactus plants I once fell into. And I would especially like you to remember our Brother Jesus Christ to whom we owe everything, for He came to heal our wounds, calm our fears, and bring us safely home when we really, really needed Him.

December Sharing Time Ideas

December Sharing Time Ideas:

1. Read the story "The Giving Tree" and show the pictures. Then pass out paper ornaments made from construction paper with a piece of yarn attached. Have each child write on his ornament what he would give this Christmas that wouldn't cost any money, such as love, kindness, neatness, help, etc., and then have each child hang his/her ornament on a small Christmas tree. Let them report if they are giving their gifts.

2. Place a Nativity scene in a box--let the children come up and choose what they would like from the box. Seat the children in a circle and as you tell the story of Christmas, let the children place the figures in the middle of the circle. An inexpensive gift you could give to the children would be a salt dough star ornament. You can discuss the light of the star that guided the Wise Men and Shepherds to the New Born King.

O Come, Let Us Adore Him - Christmas Advent Calendar

December 1: Matthew 18:20 - Create your calendar

December 2: Mosiah 3:8-10 - Make a decoration that will remind you of the Savior and His mission.

December 3: Luke 17:12-17 - In one of your prayers today give thanks for every blessing you can name.

December 4: Matthew 14:15-19 - Feed someone spiritually and bear your testimony.

December 5: Doctrine & Covenants 88:6-13 - Look up at the heavens and think about who made them. Write your feelings down.

December 6: 3 Nephi 17:5, 6, 9 - Try to be as kind as possible to others today.

December 7: Matthew 11:28 - Go out of your way to befriend someone who needs a friend.

December 8: 3 Nephi 12:3-9 - Foster peace on earth by not arguing or fighting with your brothers and sisters.

December 9: Luke 10:30-36 - Do a good deed anonymously.

December 10: Moses 4:1-3 - Use your free agency to set some goals for yourself. Write them in your journal.

December 11: Matthew 25:37-40 - Visit someone who is sick or lonely.

December 12: 3 Nephi 18:1, 3, 5, 7, 9-11 - Think about the sacrament and the Savior.

December 13: 3 Nephi 13:19-20 - Do volunteer work for some worthy cause.

December 14: John 11:35-44 - Do something to bring cheer to someone who has reason to feel sad.

December 15: 3 Nephi 17:12, 21, 24 - Do something fun with a little brother or sister or another child.

December 16: John 13:34-35 - Today tell someone that you love them and express your love for the Lord in your prayers.

December 17: 3 Nephi 12:44 - Try to forgive someone who has wronged you.

December 18: Matthew 8:23-26 - Be a calming influence today; try extra hard to control your temper.

December 19: Doctrine & Covenants 19:16-19 - Accept the gift of forgiveness, pray and ask for help in overcoming weakness.

December 20: Mark 15:29-32 - Read the accounts of the crucifixion in the four Gospels. Write down your feelings.

December 21: Isaiah 25:8 - Read the accounts of the Resurrection and record your feelings.

December 22: John 8:12 - Go look at Christmas lights and think about where all light really comes from.

December 23: Doctrine & Covenants 76:19-20, 22-24 - Go out with friends singing Christmas carols.

December 24: Matthew 24:27-42 - Try to live this day as if it were the day of Christ's second coming.

December 25: Luke 2:1-16 - Consider what gift you could give the Savior and give it all year long.

Christmas Every Day of the Year

From the Friend Magazine, December 1976

My name is Ginger Lyn and I've always loved Christmas, but last year was the best one we've ever had. It all started on Thanksgiving Day as our family knelt in prayer to give thanks for our blessings. We were all so happy that we talked about some of the things we could do to help others have that same happy feeling.

Together we came up with many ideas, but the best one of all was our plan for Christmas Day. What we like most is our large family, and the happiness the gospel brings to us. We decided to share both these blessings as our gift to others.

The Salt Lake Temple is only a short drive from our home, and going there was part of our plan. We decided that on Christmas Day, after opening our gifts and eating breakfast, we would clean up the house, fix a big dinner, and then go to the temple grounds and find someone to spend Christmas with us. Before going down to the Visitors Center on Temple Square to find our unknown guests, we would set the table with candles, and our best silver and crystal, lay a fire in the fireplace all ready to light, and turn on the Christmas tree lights.

We pasted a picture of our family inside the cover of some copies of the Book of Mormon, wrote a message under each picture, and signed our names. These books were to be given to our names. These books were to be given to our dinner guests as we sat around the fire and talked in the evening.

We were excited about our plan, and we knew the Lord would help us. In all our family prayers from Thanksgiving until Christmas, we asked Him to prepare for us someone in need of our love who would be ready to hear the gospel.

Christmas Day finally came and we were all excited. It took us a lot longer to cook the dinner and clean the house than we thought it would. Because of this we arrived at the Visitors Center later than we had planned. We were afraid everyone would have eaten by then and we wouldn't find anyone to share Christmas dinner with us. We talked with a number of people and invited several of them to our home. Some said they had already eaten and others looked a little puzzled and said, "No, thank you." But we just kept asking because we knew that our Heavenly Father had prepared somebody for us. And sure enough, He had!

We found a father and mother from Michigan and their seventeen-year-old son. They were surprised at our invitation, but said they were very hungry and were just going to look in the phone book to find a place to eat. The father and mother had been to the Visitors Center before on another vacation, and on this visit they wanted their son to learn a little bit about the Latter-day Saint people. The father said, "There isn't a better way for us to learn about your church and lifestyle than to go right into one of your homes. We'd be delighted to come!"

We also invited two young women who were on vacation from Australia to our home. They seemed excited, too. They said they hadn't eaten dinner and would enjoy being with a family at Christmastime.

We had a wonderful time on that Christmas night, eating and talking and answering questions about the Church. Before we said good-bye to our guests, they thanked us over and over again. The Michigan family said they would always remember their Christmas dinner with us as a highlight of their trip, and before they left they took a picture of us around the Christmas tree.

The girls from Australia were a little teary as we gave them each a copy of the Book of Mormon with our picture inside the cover.

After the visitors had left, our family gathered in the kitchen to do the dishes. We agreed that the real spirit of Christmas had touched each one of us and that it had been the best Christmas ever. We learned, too, that we don't have to wait for Christmas to find a Christ-like feeling--all we have to do is share the gospel with others and it can be Christmas every day of the year!

Christmas: Message from the First Presidency

President Ezra Taft Benson
President Gordon B. Hinckley, First Counselor
President Thomas S. Monson, Second Counselor

Long before the Savior was born, several Book of Mormon prophets foretold the coming of the Lord. Nephi, King Benjamin, and Alma each rejoiced when they learned of the birth and mission of the Savior. They knew that He would bring everlasting joy to the world.

When Christ was born in Bethlehem, many others were given cause to rejoice as the prophecies of old were fulfilled. Since then, Christmas has become a time when we, too, are given the opportunity to celebrate and think that blessed event.

We read in the scriptures of many miracles that Christ performed during His earthly ministry. He healed the sick, raised the dead, and blessed the needy. And through His loving example and gospel teachings. He showed us the way to happiness. It was part of His divine plan that we be happy. "Men are, that they might have joy" (2 Nephi 2:25).

With Christmastime upon us, and all the presents and goodies and festivities that accompany it, we must remember that, as nice as they are, these are not the things that bring true, lasting happiness. It is through service--the helping hand, the loving heart, and the willing spirit--that we receive real joy. In Romans, Paul reminds us that "the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost" (Romans 14:17).

The spirit of Christmas prompts us to open our hearts and take notice of others in a special way. The love of Christ, however, should be the object of worship and the focus of our lives not only during this holiday season but at all times. Let us make Christmas the beginning of a year-round celebration of Christ's birth. His life, and His mission.

Let us work also to give some of the joy the Savior has given us back to Him. We can make the Lord happy by having faith in Him, by keeping His commandments, and by loving our fellowmen as He does. As the Apostle John said, there is no greater joy than to hear that children walk in truth. (See 3 John 1:4.)

At this time, we express our sincere love to children all over the world. Know that you are a source of great joy to us as you seek to do what is right, and it is our prayer that you may all have the joy that comes from following the Savior.

True Meaning of Christmas

And Santa whispered, "Teach the children the true meaning of Christmas."

The Star: A heavenly sign of prophecy fulfilled long, long, ages ago--the shining hope of mankind.

Red: The first color of Christmas, symbolizing the Savior's sacrifice for all.

Fir Tree: Evergreen--the second color of Christmas shows everlasting life. The needles point heavenward.

The Bell: Rings out to guide lost sheep back to the fold--signifying that all are precious in the eyes of the Lord.

The Candle: A mirror of starlight reflecting our thanks for the Star of Bethlehem.

Gift Bow: Tied as we should be tied together in bonds of goodwill forever.

Candy Cane: The shepherd's crook used to bring lambs back into the fold--a reminder that we are all our brother's keeper.

The Wreath: A symbol of the never ending eternal nature of love . . . having no beginning and no end.

I am Thankful for . . . List

Have the children fill out a list of things they are thankful for during Thanksgiving time. This is also a good exercise during Christmas to help them remember what they have, not what they want.

Give Yourself Away

Give Yourself Away

By Laurel Rohlfing

What gift can I give you for Christmas this year?
What gift can I give to bring love and good cheer?
What gift can I give you to tell you I care,
A gift you'll remember, a gift we can share?

The gift that I'll give can't be bought in a store,

It doesn't cost money--it's worth much, much more!

The gift that I'll give doesn't come from a shelf.

The gift that I'll give is a gift of myself!

A gift of yourself is a gift of service. It is one of the best gifts you can give, and it doesn't cost any money! When you serve others, you are giving something that only you can give. You are giving of yourself.

Jesus gave Himself by serving others. He didn't give gifts that cost money. He blessed the sick to get well, the blind to see, the lame to walk, and the sad to feel happy.

To give yourself in service, you could share with others your love, your time, and your talents. You could serve your parents by cheerfully doing chores and by helping your brothers and sisters. You could serve at church by helping keep the building and grounds clean and orderly. You could serve the poor and needy in your community by collecting food, clothes, or other things they might need. Someone lonely or sick might enjoy a visit, a letter, or a homemade gift. You could serve the missionaries by sharing your testimony in a Book of Mormon.

King Mosiah told his people that "When ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God" (Mosiah 2:17). When you bless others' lives, you bless your own as well. So for a very satisfying Christmas, give yourself in service!

Instructions

On the next page is a list of those to whom you might want to give a gift of yourself this Christmas. Think of a way you can serve each one, and write it in the blank next to the name.

Sharing Time Ideas:

1. Review events in the Savior's life and have the children determine ways He served others.

2. Tell scripture stories of people who gave themselves away in service (Good Samaritan, King Mosiah, Esther, etc.)

3. Have children generate their own list of ways they can serve, then describe why these gifts might be more valuable than those they could buy.

4. Plan a class or an entire Primary service project.

5. Put objects in a basket or container that suggest ways children can serve others, and have younger children guess what each object stands for. Examples: Hoe (gardening), plate (setting the table), book (reading to someone). Children could use charades to express ways in which they could serve others.

6. Make an outline of a simple Nativity scene for each child. As children perform an act of service, they can color or paste in a picture until the scene is completed.

Gift List:

Mother:

Father:

Brothers:

Sisters:

Grandparents:

Friends:

Church leaders or teachers:

Missionary:

My community:

My ward/branch:

Someone who is in trouble:

Someone who is lonely:

Someone who is poor:

Someone who is sick:

Easter's Promise (Poem)

Easter's Promise

By Marie Myer

Now the snow begins to melt;
The earth is cold and brown.
I wonder where the flowers are--
There's not a bloom around.

Do they sleep beneath the earth
And stretch impatiently
And wait until the sun comes out
To be alive and free?

And do you think that when we die,
We'll slumber for a while
And then like flowers bloom again
With Heavenly Father's smile?

Easter Hunt - The True Meaning of Easter

Preparation:

An egg carton or Easter basket containing 12 plastic colored eggs, each plastic egg is filled with an object that symbolizes a scriptural reference of the Resurrection and the scripture reference.

1. Matthew 26:39 - sacrament cup (Let this cup pass. . .)
2. Matthew 26:14, 15 - 3 dimes (30 pieces of silver . . .)
3. Matthew 27:1, 2 - piece of knotted twine (bound Jesus)
4. Matthew 27:24-26 - sliver of soap (Pilate - "I am innocent")
5. Matthew 27:28-30 - square of red felt (his robe)
6. Matthew 27:31, 32 - a nail and a toothpick cross
7. Matthew 27:35, 36 - dice (cast lots for his robe)
8. Matthew 27:50, 51, 54 - bag of dirt and rocks (earthquake)
9. Matthew 27:58-60 - piece of white cloth (Jesus wrapped)
10. Matthew 27:60, 65, 66 - stone (rolled in front of tomb)
11. Luke 25:56 - bay leaf (herbs on Jesus)
12. Matthew 28:6 - empty (He was resurrected)

Procedure:

Ask 12 children (one at a time) to choose an egg out of the basket. The egg will contain both a small object and the scriptural reference it relates to. Read the scripture and discuss what the object symbolizes.

The children should gain a deeper understanding of the true meaning of Easter.